Partner Communication: the Importance of Soul sharing with your Love
Living with your spouse every day is not enough to make a relationship work. You may be talking and be physically present to each other but you do not reach each others soul. Yes, you may be kissing and hugging every time you see each other but without good partner communication, you are not sure where your relationship is going.
Before you get confused, I would like to tell you the difference between talking and communicating. In talking, you are just saying words to get the message across; it may work but most of the time it doesn’t. Communicating is a one step forward in the process: it is transmitting a message successfully. It’s like hearing versus listening. In hearing, you just perceive the sounds in your ears while listening is hearing with concentration and understanding. When you talk to your partner with no communication, the marriage is in danger.
A relationship grows stronger through good communication because you are sharing your soul with your love. It’s not just sex, love, and being around all day. Here are the reasons why you need to have a good communication with your partner:
Magic Bond and Trust
When you start a good communication with your spouse, you also build trust with him and this strengthens your bond. It’s like magic! In keeping a strong marriage, trust is a big factor. With trust, you can talk about things better, share the inner feelings and thoughts, and even your sexual relationship will become not just satisfying but intimate and passionate. When you trust your spouse, being like a CIA agent is not your duty anymore.
Connection and Growing Together
Communicating with your partner makes him part of you and that way you’ll grow together. It is important to let your spouse know what’s going on with you or else you’ll grow apart. Don’t let your connection break. Change is inevitable and when one gets used to with no connection, the other will eventually move completely apart from you.
Touching the Soul and Understanding
You will know what your spouse needs, wants, expects, and feel when you communicate with him properly. You will touch his soul when he knows you understand him and this makes him feel he is always important. Do not assume what’s going on because you can be guessing wrong things. It is important to communicate in all aspects of your life from food, likes, dislikes, money, and even sex.
Safety Nest
In a relationship, you would feel safe when you know your spouse understands everything about you. This will be your authentic safety nest because you can be your true self. You can share your greatest dreams, concerns, desires, and even your fears. You won’t be ashamed when you feel down, tell what upsets you, and also free to celebrate your successes. When good communication is present, you feel secured someone is there for you anytime to talk to and listen to you.
Creating Boundaries
Through proper communication, you are offering to each other the opportunity to let your spouse know your boundaries. Even though you are married you still have boundaries as individuals: financial, emotional, or sexual boundaries. You should know where you and you partner stands in every aspects of your life. Speak up your mind but with a loving heart.
Maintaining Humor
The most important aspect of communication is sharing laughter with your spouse each day. You will start to lose the joy in you married life when there is no more humor. You need laughter in your relationship because it is a direct link to your souls. Sharing laughter with your love will automatically and easily connects with your spirit as a couple. As they say” “Laughter is the best medicine” this is not only for sick people but for couples to make their love alive.
Now that you know the importance of good partner communication, I hope you’ll practice this with your spouse to stay in a strong and wonderful love life. Sometimes, I imitate commercials or people and say it to my husband to make him laugh. It’s corny but I make him laugh which makes our day better. Do something silly once in awhile with your partner. Enjoy your marriage!
After Saying “I do”: How to make your Marriage Successful
Now that the search is over, it doesn’t stop there. You are now married and you want it to work, right? I’m sure you want to stay together for the rest of your lives and enjoy your marriage. A successful marriage don’t just happen instantly, you have to do some things to build a great marriage after saying “I do”.
Here are Success Factors to make your Marriage Happy and Last Long:
Start a Cherishing Attitude
Do all you can do to show how much you value your spouse. Invest in giving the respect that he needs. Cherish his presence in your life. Focus on the positive qualities of your spouse and practice to be more appreciative. Stop invalidating behaviors like comparing to others, neglecting, ignoring, cursing, rolling of eyes, pouting, name calling, mocking, and other disrespectful attitudes.
It’s not all about Money
You should both think about financial security that doesn’t affect your relationship. Decide on things that are beneficial to both parties. Don’t argue about money. Try to hold hands whenever to communicate about money to defuse tension. Know how to compliment when the other one is doing great in saving money and when something is wrong, try to give a suggestion in a nicer way. Don’t act like you have a police officer career chasing a shoplifter all the time. Everything can be settled when talked about in a calm way.
Discover Sexual Satisfaction
Sex in a marriage should not be just for personal satisfaction. It should grow out of a loving and nurturing relationship. Know your partner’s needs and not just concentrate on yours. Having a contented sex makes a marriage last longer. When you celebrate your love, it should be done with all emotions and spirits. Be intimate at all times. Don’t rush love making; be gentle and try to be romantic and innovative. Surprises are good too.
Spend Time Together
Spending regular quality time with your spouse strengthen the bond. You should have fun together to connect better. When partners start to do things separately all the time, they tend to drift apart. Giving time to each other should be given high priority. Try to learn the hobbies of your spouse to be closer and have interesting times. Try watching TV while cuddling at night time, snacking together while having a fun conversation, watch a movie, dine out on weekends, go to the beach, etc. these are good examples to spend quality time together. I and my husband brush our teeth together. It’s fun!
Developing Friendship
Being the best friend of your spouse is very important. This will make him feel you are an all in one person…a spouse, a friend, and his everything. Laugh together, play together and tell secrets. Be open to each other and practice honesty at all times. And be the best listener as you can be.
Physical Attraction is Valuable
Don’t take yourself for granted now that you’re married. Continue to take care of your physical appearance. Don’t let your body to be out of shape. When you maintain your good looks, it’s like showing respect to yourself and to your spouse as well. You don’t need to look perfect but making yourself healthy, happy, and blooming is wonderful for your spouse. Stay attractive for your love this shows that you’re a contented married person.
Emotional Connection
Mood swings can happen. Try to be nice at all time. When you hurt your spouse when you’re upset, try to talk about it after wards and apologize. Talk about it freely so your spouse understands what you’re going through at the moment. Support each other when there is an emotional journey. Give a hug, it feels good.
Protect Home Harmony
Try to practice a peaceful atmosphere in your home. Work on your communication skills so it won’t be misinterpreted. Avoid harsh words to each other. Don’t let unresolved issues destroy your marriage. Be calm in dealing with problems. Express your feelings to your spouse using calm and loving words, good actions, with hugs and kisses. Your home should be a welcoming place to both of you.
Build Spiritual Fusion
Make Jesus the center of your marriage. Go to church together and talk together about spiritual thoughts. Marriage is stronger when you know how to give thanks to the Lord. Ask for God’s blessings in your marriage.
To have a successful marriage, you need to give and take. Learn to sacrifice a lot. If you’re really value your marriage, exerting effort to make it fabulous should not be a hard work to do. It really comes naturally. Love unconditionally.
First Love Never dies: is it really True?
There are many tales about first love. The Romeo and Juliet love story is the most famous one and Taylor Swift even has a song about them. Once you hear first love, you begin to think of your past and smile a little bit. Am I correct? It’s because you remember something special that you cannot forget. It’s already part of you.
What if you get to talk to your first love again after how many years? Are you prepared? How do you expect to react? You may have a lot of questions in your mind especially if you didn’t have a closure on your relationship before. Are you strong enough to deal with it?
Everybody had a first love. Of course, I had a first love too. I was so young back then. I think I was just 14 years old. It was so wonderful to know that someone thinks of me. The giggles, day dreaming, love notes, and care are all over. Love is in the air. It felt like heaven. What an innocent love. It’s like my whole world is revolving around him. But as they say, nothing really ever lasts in this world. There are some consequences that are beyond your control. So, the happy moments ended.
One day, after a decade I got a chance to chat with him. I don’t understand but I started to be scared. We exchanged our greetings and then started to remember the past. We began to laugh because we were both wrong on what we thought had happened in the past. It was a simple misunderstanding that ended into non-communication. So, that part of our live was cleared after an exchange of explanations. That was the past though. Whatever we say will not give effect to our lives now. It was just a good feeling that we brought out the things we wanted to say before but didn’t have the chance. It lightened my heart as well as him. At least now, we both know that we are not bitter to each other.
We are miles away but we know that we once love each other on our own simple ways. We cannot go back and continue our past love because we are not destined for each other. If we were, we didn’t parted ways in the first place. We knew that God had planned something for us on our separate lives and we trusted Him. I am just glad that he is happy with his family as well I am. We never communicated since then but we know that we will always be a special part of each others life where ever we are.
They said first love never dies maybe because everything that you do for the first time is memorable just like your first time to have a phone, first time to ride a roller coaster, first time to drive, first time to have a college scholarship, first time to travel, etc. And first love is just like that. It gives a mark to your heart. It’s a beautiful life experience.
I believe more on true love because it may not be the first but it’s definitely the last. Once you found your true love, you’ll stop looking. I found mine and he’s the last. How about you? What your story about your first love?
Expressing Love!
Many Ways to say I love you- making that Special someone feel it
Sometimes, it is not easy to say the words “I love you” especially when you don’t know how to express it. There are some actions that can help you find a new love, heal past pains, or rekindle an old love. If you are looking for some other ways to show your special someone your love, that’s a good idea because it shows that you are being creative, sweet, and innovative. Knowing various ways to express your feelings will boost the relationship, improve communication, and keeps the fire burning. Consistently and sincerely doing these many ways to say I love you will be your best jobs ever but will be worth it. I’ve listed some simple ways to help you make your partner love you more to the highest level.
1. Appreciate your partner everyday. Say something nice but don’t say the same thing every day. Try to find something that you can appreciate about your love in a day.
2. Say “Good Morning” with hugs and kisses to start the day right. And end the night saying “Good night” with a tight hug and a bunch of kisses as well.
3. Don’t forget to ask “How are you?” This means you care and you’re thinking about him or her.
4. “Thank you” is a very powerful word that makes that spirit up. Even on simple things, make your special someone feel good because you notice every small thing that he or she does for you.
5. It’s a good idea to make some cute messages on a post it and stick it on his or her computer. This will bring some smile on his or her face.
6. Every time you see each other, like when you go home after work, you should be energetic to see him or her. There should always be a smile on your face. As if you haven’t seen each other for a long time.
7. Cook his or her favorite food and try to learn more of the food he or she likes so you can prepare it as a surprise.
8. Always eat meals together as much as possible.
9. Cuddle while watching the TV or a movie together.
10. Give surprise gifts. It doesn’t need to be a special occasion to give a cute something. It doesn’t need to be expensive too. It’s not the thing that counts but it’s the thought that matters.
11. Remember special moments together especially your anniversary and plan ahead of time on what you’re going to do together to celebrate.
12. Make your love laugh at least once a day. It’s okay to be silly once in a while. Love is corny anyway.
13. Listen. Lending your ears. This will make him or her feel you’re the hero.
14. Motivate your partner to believe in him or herself. You’ll be the number one fan or cheer leader for your love.
15. Accepting all the flaws and encourage him or her to improve himself or herself.
16. Send some short but loving text messages. This will brighten his or her day.
17. Make an unexpected call in a day to say “I miss you”.
18. Give a special healthy treat once in a while like a simple back rub or a foot massage.
19. Gather all your happy pictures together and make a collage, scrap book, or a video for your shared special moments.
20. The words “I love you” itself are so meaningful. It’s true that “actions speak louder than words but we need words to confirm the feeling”. How beautiful isn’t it?
Saying I love you shouldn’t be so hard if you really mean it. But when you say it, be sure you are bound by your words. All of the above things that I’ve mentioned are presently practiced by me and my husband. Loving somebody and being loved is a special thing God gave us to experience and should be treasured. If you can try to practice them too, I’m sure you’ll have a wonderful relationship for life. Love is in the air. I love it!
If you know more ways on how to show your love feel free to share it with me.
